Overall, Troys appointment went well on wednesday. I feel like we are getting back on track and reevaluating some necessary things. This TBI life is a continuous balancing act. Doctor Vandenberg discussed options for us going forward. One of them being scheduling some sessions with a Psychologist through Mary Free Bed who could help teach Troy how to better his social skills while also managing himself and others a little better. He seemed interested in giving that a try. Many of you who knew Troy before the accident know how social he was. The kid was friends with everyone. Now, things are a little different. Socializing doesn't come as easy as it once did. Dr Vandenberg told us that this is 100% due to Troy's injury and is quite common with TBI survivors. I think this may be one of the more frustrating life changes Troy has had to cope with since his TBI. He often times feels like he has lost friends because "no one wants to hang out with him anymore". Although this particular situation could be far worse, like not being able to communicate or socialized at all, he does struggle with this. There are many times he claims he is too "awkward" in conversations with people. I recently read online about the "Twelve things you need to know before loving someone with a brain injury". One of them being; "We feel disconnected from people" Not being able to fully participate in activities sometimes shuts them out from their peers. That could not be more accurate for Troys situation. This is one big change he notices and feels really uncomfortable with at times. We're going to work on it and see how it goes.
One thing that Dr Vandenberg talks about every time we visit with him is his disbelief with where Troy is now compared to where he started. He reminds us that he never thought Troy would be back to work again. Which is one of the many huge blessings we are able to celebrate. No matter how hard days are at work or how frustrated he gets, he's there and we are so grateful for that! We are so thankful for Troys recovery and I'm so thankful for Troys drive to be the best Dad and husband he can be with his circumstances. This is no easy journey; we work extremely hard on ourselves to be better for each other to be the best for Brody. We have an incredible bond that we wouldn't have had without this journey. Our love for family and appreciation for health has quadrupled over the last three years. We have it good, even when it's hard!